Unsung Heroes: Mothers of ADHD Children: Part Three

Mothers of ADHD Children Lack Sufficient Support

Support for moms of ADDers, in their frustrating battles against the world, as they advocate for their children, is sparse. What support is available, is often very expensive, preventing many moms from getting the help they need. If she wants to find someone with an understanding of ADHD and how it impacts her family, this mom will, more than likely, find that care costly. Even then, the help maybe lacking in the most updated comprehensive knowledge, and mothers with the resources to hire help, often find themselves still doing most of the needed advocacy for their ADDers, by themselves.

What Are Mothers of ADHD Children To Do?

Before asking you to take on the task of educating the world about ADHD, which many are already doing anyway, I am making a serious plea to please take care of yourselves first! From the day your child received a diagnosis of ADHD, and probably before, most of your attention has focused on  your child and learning about ADHD…reading books, talking to Moms of other ADDers, researching doctors, medicine, therapists, special services at school…all while running as fast as you can to keep up with grocery shopping, laundry, cooking, school meetings, chauffeuring duties, birthdays, after school activities, extended family, friends and more! And these are just the basic mother’s duties. Most women today, have a second job, outside of the home, for which they do get paid. So, where in all of this activity, is the mom of ADHD children, supposed to find time to breathe, no less have five minutes for herself? Finding time for oneself takes the same kind of tenacity, diligence, and planning, that you bring to your child’s schedule of ADHD appointments.

Step 1: Take Care of  Yourself

If you are a mother of an ADHD child, and can relate to the experiences described above, it’s time to apply the lesson learned, on your ADHD journey, to yourself. You have learned that no one has your child’s best interest at heart to the extent that you do. To insure your child receive the best care and treatment, you spent countless hours doing the research, and legwork, to make it happen. No one did it for you. The same is true regarding your own self-care. No one can have your best interest at heart more than you can. It is up to you to care of yourself first, much in the same way the airlines tell us to put our oxygen masks on first, before we put them on our children. The reasoning is simple. You have to be breathing, so you can take care of your child!

Moms, you need to start taking better care of yourselves, so you can be there, with your child, for the long haul, through the ADHD journey. Remember, ADHD is a lifelong condition. It will get better, but it won’t go away. If you want to stay healthy, and have the energy and stamina, to be there for your child, in the way the child needs, and the way you want to be, it’s time to re-evaluate your priorities.

Watch for Unsung Heroes: Mothers of ADHD Children: Part Three Continued. Coming Soon!

About addcoach1

This internet blog is written by Regina Cashman, M.A., an ADHD Coach with a nationwide internet practice. Regina previously worked as a Medical Psychotherapist for Human Developmental Services before opening her private practice as an ADHD LifeCoach, helping to manage the multiple interventions and psycho-education of those with ADHD. Regina's website, ADDCoach Services, is found at www.ADDCoach.info. Appointments are by video chat. ADD Coach Services helps individuals with ADD/ADHD, and those who love them, navigate the ADD maze so as to Master their ADD, rather than be mastered by it. Please provide comments and feedback!
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